

Hey married people! We believe that Strong Marriages = Strong Families. A strong marriage requires a substantial investment of time and energy from each person into the pursuit of the other. Our Family Team loves to create fun and challenging dates for our married couples to dive into each quarter.
DATE Night - APril 2025
The three biggest areas of conflict in a marriage are RELATIONSHIPS, MONEY, AND SEX. For our April Date Night couples can choose the area they want to invest time discussing and growing closer to one another by working through the questions provided below. Couples should choose one area and answer all questions in that area before deciding whether or not to move on to any additional areas.
Questions in each conflict area increase in depth and vulnerability required
- GREEN (Mild) // Icebreaker requiring little vulnerability
- YELLOW (Spicy) // Deeper question requiring some vulnerability
- RED (Hot) // Much deeper question that requires being open, honest and very vulnerable
- DARK RED (Extra) // The deepest (and hottest) question....
Conflict area :: Relationships
While the husband-wife relationship is central in marriage, strong and healthy connections outside of marriage are vital too. God designed us for community and our marriages can thrive in the context of relationships that sharpen, refresh and support both people. When the relationships we have with family, couple friends and individuals are healthy, wisely chosen and have clear boundaries, they can help to strengthen your marriage!

Green (Mild)
- Which family, couple, or indiidual relationship has been the most positive influence on your relationship?
- How can you show gratitude for those relationships?
Yellow (Spicy)
- Which relationships need more intentional investment by you as an individual? As a couple?
- What is the next thing you need to do to invest in that relationship?
Red (Hot)
- Which relationships bring the most tension?
- Spend some time digging into why they create tension.
- Where does that tension come from?
Conflict area :: Money
Money plays a huge role in a marriage relationship not only because we have to stay on top of bills and budgets, but because it reflects our values, priorities and communication styles. Even more importantly, it is a way for your marriage and family to be on mission together. Although it may not be easy. to talk about money, it is vital for creating and maintaining oneness and purpose within your marriage and your family!
Green (Mild)
- What Kind of Legacy do you want to leave financially for your family, your community, and the world?
- What's one step you can take now to work towards the legacy you want to leave?
Yellow (Spicy)
- What money habit does your spouse have that you appreciate?
- What is a money habit you wish your spouse would work on?
Red (Hot)
- What are the unspoken fears, guilts, or beliefs you carry about money?
- How are they affecting your relationship?

Conflict area :: sex
Sex is a really powerful and meaningful area in your marriage to explore. Sex is not only an act of physical intimacy but also a way to strengthen emotional, spiritual and relational oneness. Healthy communication about sex can be difficult and feel awkward. However, it is vital for fostering openness, trust, mutual respect and joy in your marriage.

Green (Mild)
- What are the things your spouse can do outside of the bedroom that would make you feel more connected during sex?
Yellow (Spicy)
- For you, what would be the ideal frequency for having sex?
- How similar are your answers? Discuss any differences.
- How close is your actual frequency to your ideal frequency?
- What are the barriers to meeting your ideal frequency?
- What is an action step you can take over the next month to be better aligned?
Red (Hot)
- What is the difference between GOOD and GREAT sex?
- When was the last time you and your spouse had GREAT sex?
Dark Red (Spicy)
Picture the last time you and your spouse had GREAT sex, describe your experience and how it made you feel in as much detail as you can!
Use the 4 areas of the Whole Self to describe your experience and how it made you feel:
Use the 4 areas of the Whole Self to describe your experience and how it made you feel:
- Physical // Use all 5 senses to describe your experience.
- Emotional // What emotions did you feel?
- Mental // What were your thoughts and desires for your spouse?
- Spiritually // How did it reflect the closeness you have spiritually with your spouse?